How do find the right frame of mind for a relationship? I mean… being wholly unexperienced, i wonder these idiot sorts of things. Did you always assume you’d grow old with every person you ever dated seriously, or did you just assume they’d last for a month or two and then fade away. Were you ever pleasantly surprised either way? is the trick just to expect nothing and enjoy what you have? Well, yes, of course it is, but i need a framework in which to look at things, and i don’t know if i can deal with “You’ll be that person who i dated for a year in college and still send postcards to.” I mean, if you admit it will end, why bother starting … except so that you can have the experience. Yeah, i suddenly know how to answer all my own idiot questions, see how much more interesting i am now?