Matt Pollard is finally back to blogging, and he’s been very interesting so far today, so i suggest you go give him a read.
by krisis
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Explaining “Frazzled” to May: Like… i dunno. It’s sorta like when you have split ends in your hair, only instead of your hair it’s your whole life.
Matt adds his .02cents from over the pond, where they’re worth less (or, alternately, his .02pounds, which is worth more).
Personally, myself, I wouldn’t fling. I mean, for one, it wouldn’t mean a thing. Also, for another, kissing and sex is supposed to be an intimate activity between two individuals (although some see if fit to involve more than two people!) and drunken flings would just dirty what should be a great experience. Not that the opportunity ever arises of course, but still, I’d still rather it to be with someone I’ve gotten to know and care about, rather than some random girl.
Ah, but the question that arises is: what if the drunken fling is with a non-random person? Instead of it being some random hottie at a party, maybe it’s someone you know from class and have always sorta liked. Of course, Matt might have meant it would’ve been random in that anyone other than a significant other would be random in that situation, but i almost always assume i’d know a potential fling a little bit (mostly because i tend to know everyone at every party i go to, even if it’s just a little). What do you think he meant?
Rabi flings her opinion into the fray:
I’m against alcohol-induced hookups, for most of the same reasons you mentioned in your post. but completely sober one night stands can be very meaningful, in their own way. I think. not every relationship is intended for longtermness, and just as it takes a special pairing to last a year or more in a committed relationship, it takes a special pairing to make a single night significant and resonant, emotionally as well as physically. and it can happen.
that said, I think most one night stands are probably pretty pointless, emotionally. people don’t treat them with the respect they deserve.
Of course, not everyone has to agree with Rabi (just me), so feel free to add your own opinion to the mix.
Opinions on getting flung? Says J.Miller:
Personally, I probably wouldn’t fling…not that the opportunity would arise, anyway. For argument’s sake, however, if I were to fling, I’d want to do it sober so that I could be assured of remembering it. =)
So, although Mr. Miller feels that he would never warrant a fling, inebriation or not, theoretically he might do it if he could retain all of the vivid and colourful memories of it. Do you agree?