Crushing Krisis

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Krisis has been creating Crushing Krisis since 2000, writing songs since 1996, and reading comics since 1991. He is a Customer Success and Digital Brand Strategy executive, serial organizer, parent, and feminist, among other things. Based in Philly through 2017, he now resides in Wellington, NZ.

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Matt adds his .02cents from over the pond, where they’re worth less (or, alternately, his .02pounds, which is worth more).

Personally, myself, I wouldn’t fling. I mean, for one, it wouldn’t mean a thing. Also, for another, kissing and sex is supposed to be an intimate activity between two individuals (although some see if fit to involve more than two people!) and drunken flings would just dirty what should be a great experience. Not that the opportunity ever arises of course, but still, I’d still rather it to be with someone I’ve gotten to know and care about, rather than some random girl.

Ah, but the question that arises is: what if the drunken fling is with a non-random person? Instead of it being some random hottie at a party, maybe it’s someone you know from class and have always sorta liked. Of course, Matt might have meant it would’ve been random in that anyone other than a significant other would be random in that situation, but i almost always assume i’d know a potential fling a little bit (mostly because i tend to know everyone at every party i go to, even if it’s just a little). What do you think he meant?

https://crushingkrisis.com/2001/04/3064748/

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Rabi flings her opinion into the fray:

I’m against alcohol-induced hookups, for most of the same reasons you mentioned in your post. but completely sober one night stands can be very meaningful, in their own way. I think. not every relationship is intended for longtermness, and just as it takes a special pairing to last a year or more in a committed relationship, it takes a special pairing to make a single night significant and resonant, emotionally as well as physically. and it can happen.

that said, I think most one night stands are probably pretty pointless, emotionally. people don’t treat them with the respect they deserve.

Of course, not everyone has to agree with Rabi (just me), so feel free to add your own opinion to the mix.

https://crushingkrisis.com/2001/04/3063125/

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Opinions on getting flung? Says J.Miller:

Personally, I probably wouldn’t fling…not that the opportunity would arise, anyway. For argument’s sake, however, if I were to fling, I’d want to do it sober so that I could be assured of remembering it. =)

So, although Mr. Miller feels that he would never warrant a fling, inebriation or not, theoretically he might do it if he could retain all of the vivid and colourful memories of it. Do you agree?

https://crushingkrisis.com/2001/04/3060565/

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I’m steaming the wrinkles out of the shirt and tie i intend to wear tomorrow, and every time i walk into the bathoom to check on them my lungs are heavy with air and my hair magically lifts itself into frizzy little curls. I wish i could have a room full of static electricity too … or maybe i could just use the dryer from time to time and wind up with the static and the crisp clothes. There’s a thought…

https://crushingkrisis.com/2001/04/3055481/

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lalala. I’m debating the merits and demerits of drunken flings with one of my friends via instant messaging services, which is [of course] what the internet was intended for from the start. He seems to view a inebriated hookup almost as a right of passage as long as it isn’t too embarrassing, whereas i find it rather reprehensible; if you want to kiss someone, you should have enough respect for them to kiss them sober. Drunk kisses tend to mean all the wrong things, and what they don’t mean is that you’re willing to put any real effort into getting someone interested in you. Also, assuming we’re referring to something akin to a one-night-stand, they mean you’re forever left wondering if it anything that ocurred meant something to the other person, or if it was really just the liquor talking. Articulate reader commentary on this will be posted at a later date, so please chime in with opinions, experiences, ect (this is honestly a test-run to see if i want blog-voices, so open up your damned mouths for once to email me and then it’ll be easier for all of us).

https://crushingkrisis.com/2001/04/3055227/

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